The Yin-Yang State Of Mind

While I was walking down a shady looking gully today, I had an epiphany. Not the eureka type, but the type where you get an idea and ponder upon the occurrences that may result from it. The type of idea that slowly sneaks up on you, quietly like a stealthy cat is hard to come by. They rarely befall upon ordinary folks, like myself.  However, today, while walking on a slippery sidewalk, I discovered what many don’t. I discovered what I believe is the secret of having of a social life.

I’m not going to be like the book, “The Secret”. I will not ramble on and on about the secret, without even telling you what it is. Therefore, the secret of having a social life is finding the median. If you find the middle for everything, you will find what you need for a happy life.

Everything has a middle. The secret to having a social life is to stand out while still being a part of something. Be the black sheep among the white, but still be a sheep. Being different is a good thing, and it’s simple really; you just have to be yourself. Fitting in is the tough part, but that is plausible too. Being a part of the group, while still standing out is almost impossible. However, as Audrey Hepburn once said, “Even ‘impossible’ says, I’m possible!” Finding the middle, and then becoming it is the secret to surviving. Today, society over powers us all. Whatever society says, most of us blindly do.

Standing out and being idiosyncratic is a good thing, but only to a point. We are social creatures. Most people like most people, and people need people. Even if you don’t want any company, you need it. You know why? Because you are human (or at least I hope you are). Since people need people, people crave being a part of a group. They want to belong, and that is hard to do. However, once you find your little nook, it’s worth it.

Even though humans are social creatures, most of us still crave for attention. Honestly, who doesn’t like being noticed? What is better than being a part of a group but standing out at the same time? You fit in, but you’re still thought of as an individual.

Going back to the original topic, the mid-way is the way to go. Extremes are risky and they’re not constant. For example, with personalities. The best personalities are ones that are in the middle. Somebody who is nice but not weak, funny but can be serious, smart but not a smart-aleck, witty but not mean, talks but not too much, and is charming but not cunning is literally a perfect person. AS you might have noticed, that person has all the medians down. It’s hard and impossible (no matter what Audrey Hepburn said) for every single person to have all of those characteristics. We are all different, and we all have our attributes and flaws. However, while we should learn to accept ourselves, we should also learn to better ourselves.

Haven’t you noticed, the yin-yang? We need both the dark and the light in life, but both to a limit. The dark should balance the light, and vice versa. Even humans, who lived thousands of years ago, have found this to be true. Extremes are not the way to go.

Find the middle for everything, and I assure you, you will live a great life. Don’t be extremely mean, or extremely nice but be a good person. Don’t talk too much but you shouldn't keep quite all the time. Just find a middle, one that fits you personally.

Today’s epiphany might not exactly be the secret for living an amazing life, but I assure you it’s a way to improve your life. Extremes are dangerous and don’t work well. If you find the middle you will find the way to peace, much like the yin-yang.